I’ve been trying to convince my some friends to share some of their recent experiences. They’re learning valuable lessons and I think they would benefit more people. This post is a result of trying to convince them to share what they’re learning. In case you’re like my friends, here are 8 reasons to share what you’re learning:
I like control. I like to know where God is going, exactly what He is doing, exactly when we will arrive. I also like to remind God of His need to behave in ways that fit with my clear ideas of Him. For example, God is just merciful, good, wise, loving. The problem, then, is that God is beyond the grasp of every concept I have of Him. He is utterly incomprehensible. – Pete Scazzero in Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
You know when something happens… I mean something that’s both funny and painful. It is painful, yes but very funny at the same time. So while you laugh the element of pain is present. Sometimes it’s a truth that ‘rocks us’ thus and at other times, incredulity. This is just me now imagining… I think of Abraham & Sarah’s response to God when He told them they were going to have a son was a mixture of both.
Abraham fell flat on his face. And then he laughed, thinking, “Can a hundred-year-old man father a son? And can Sarah, at ninety years, have a baby?” – Gen 17:17 (MSG)
Abraham & Sarah were faced with a promise by God, made in the middle of blatantly contradicting reality. This is the nature of God’s promises at times. They come to us when circumstance and even ourselves are not in agreement. We often don’t doubt God’s ability but His timing and whether He will do it for us. I think that’s the crux of our believing / faith struggles; “will God do this for me?” or “when will He come through?”.
Often when God makes a promise to us, some of our initial reactions are, like Abraham, “will you really do this for me? how will you make it happen?”. After God makes a promise we have sought or hoped for, for a while, I think it is more appropriate to celebrate than challenge His faithfulness to fulfill.
But I’ll never forget the advice you gave me; you saved my life with those wise words. – Psalm 119:93 (MSG)
Rest in Him and the truth of His word and promise today. Delay (in our eyes) is not necessarily denial!
I shared 4 of 9 ways to guarantee your failure yesterday… here are the rest of the 9 ways to secure your failure!
- Don’t set milestones and celebrate achievements. A goal will be more achievable when you set smaller steps or milestones. Milestones can be celebration points that help you realize how far you’ve come and how much further to go. When teams, leaders and people in general don’t celebrate or acknowledge progress they can easily get despondent.
- Allow past failures to be an inhibiting and not liberating force.
- Always hang out with people that talk about why it can’t be done. You strengthen what you echo. What you constantly listen to will affect your outlook. This group of people is normally a gathering of those that aren’t doing or haven’t tried anything themselves!
- Hang out with those who criticize the doers. There are times I’ve been around people that always find something to criticize in other people’s attempts. Eventually, when it was my turn to act, I was afraid about what the same people would say about me and my attempts or methods. (also see number 3)
- Do everything solo. When you do everything on your own, especially in areas of your ignorance and ineptitude success is far from guaranteed!
Here are four of nine ways to guarantee failure… In some cases one item can guarantee but often, it’s a normally a ‘concoction’ of a couple of them…
- Do nothing! No matter how good your plans or vision or goals are, nothing will guarantee them not being realized than inactivity. This can be brought by just being lazy or procrastination. Rule number one to failing – don’t do anything! Perfectionists are often the greatest causalities in this area. Waiting for something to be ‘perfect’ before they can make forward movement or waiting for the perfect conditions to act. The truth is there will always be some condition that can be better. Embrace that perfection is a process and journey embarked on, not a destination.
- Procrastination is not only a thief of time, but a thief of success and progress. Always pushing things to be done in the future can can rob you of possible opportunities. Some moments may not come again or you may not be able to get the same impact or results another time.
- Always cower in the face of risk. I’m not advocating for reckless risk taking but playing it safe will definitely not guarantee success! If you’re going to be successful you will need to take risks at some point! An element of risk makes up the formula of success.
- Listen to everybody. The fact that ‘everyone’ can share an opinion with you doesn’t mean you have to follow it. What is relevant to you and what will add to you advancing. I like what Bill Cosby said; “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”