Parsley just can’t understand why I’m upset with her and don’t want her in the house. She’s probably wondering what’s wrong with me and why I’m, “being so mean”. Lesson: before we blame other people for how they act toward us, we must first check ourselves.

Before we trumpet, “I don’t know what’s wrong with everybody” we must use the mirror.

When we’re honest about the crap we have, on our part, then can we be honest and have authentic relationships with others. It is not always others’ faults. Usually, we’re are the problem.

When we can only see what others are doing wrong. When it is only what other people keep doing to us. Those times we never own anything. I’m talking about the times we never see our fault.

It is a dangerous thing to only see other people’s faults and not our own. When we can’t see the contribution from our own shortcomings no one will want to work with us. No one wants to work with someone who only sees fault in others and never themselves.

When we can’t see our own contribution to relational or team problems we lose opportunity to grow. Denial is anti growth. Acknowledging you have contributed to the problem means you are better able to contribute to the solution.

Collaboration is doesn’t work when people can’t see and be seen as equals. Pointing fingers can easily escalate into thinking we are superior. This often leads to treating others as less than. As if they have nothing to contribute.

We who see splinters in the eyes of others, do we have planks in our own? As we subject others to our scrutiny, can we allow them to do the same to us? Can we take the tests we put on others on ourselves?

Before we point fingers let’s be honest with ourselves. Can we trumpet the wrong with ourselves the same, if not louder, than others’ faults?

Check yourself… Let’s check ourselves. It is not always others’ faults.

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Published by Blessing Mpofu

just a guy changing the world

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