Our Fable Of Privilege

Yesterday we decided we would go to a shopping centre further than ones close to home. That centre has bigger shops and more variety. This is the start of our fable of privilege.

At bed time I didn’t bother setting the alarm on my iPhone like I do when I have an early start. Ingrid and I planned to get as much sleep as we could. We hadn’t planned it but decided what time we were leaving when we were both up.

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The Commitments That Suffer Most When Life Gets Hectic

I just got back to the office from the ‘holidays’. I knew there were a lot of important and urgent things awaiting. I successfully resisted the urge to work and tried to focus on building a reserve of strength I’d need when I got back.

As I imagined things are as I had imagined. At the start of the year and I’ve already used, “hectic” as a response and punctuation. Time and excellence are of the essence!

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An Easy Way To Create Momentum In Marriage

I’m kinda slow in learning some things. Marriage is probably one of the most significant achievements for me… In the sense of the work it takes and that it is an exercise for the rest of our lives. Jenny Acuff gives an easy tip to create momentum in marriage. Check out her tip here.

What one tip would you give?

Really? All In The Name Of Truth And Honesty

Too many crimes are committed in the name of honesty and truth. Some people claim to be very open people because they always speak the truth. They claim they are honest in dealing with people when they don’t like something.

That is what they say. There are times I may have also used their language. Rather, they’re excuses.

Often it is just a cover for being nasty. Mean. Stop giving honesty and being truthful a bad rap because of your meanness.

truth and honesty

I’m not suggesting that we never speak the truth. I’m saying we must be careful how we speak the truth.

We must be honest with people but it matters how we translate that honesty in the context. Care enough about your message to package it well.

Also, don’t mistake being rude for being honest with people. That makes you worse than a jerk. As I encounter people who do such, I write these things as notes to myself.

There are many opportunities to be a jerk. The question is, “Will I take them?” [Click to Tweet

Will you?

I know that I can be just as bad. You too. I’d like to think that I can’t be as bad as everyone else but that is not the truth. Sometimes I do cross the “jerk line”.

I’m glad to have people around me that love me enough to pull me back over that line without being nasty but truthful in a kind way. It hurts, sometimes, but it helps. I end up a better person. These people help me become more.

I want to be honest about how I feel with people I care about and leave relationships intact. In fact, I want, I need the relationships to be stronger. I want people I lead to love me for the truth I bleed, with love.

“I’m just saying the truth” or “I’m just being honest” must not be used, as a cop out for not delivering the truth in a way it deserves.

Truth is a beautiful thing. It deserves to be delivered in a manner that exalts not demeans it [Click to Tweet]

Truth is like a hammer. If it is used well it can build great things. It can also be used destructively. We get to choose how we use it.

Love people and truth enough to use it to build up; not destroy [Click to Tweet]  

When you’re done using truth, the hammer, may be there more standing and not rubble.

Honesty strengthens the foundations of relationships, don’t deface it.

[Photo Credit: Marc Wathieu]

What To Say To and Do For Those You’ve Let Down

I’ve written about what to do when those you look up to let you down. With that numerous requests have come in asking what one should say to those he has let down. The incessant requests now push me to ignore my reluctance.

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