goodbye hello…?

It doesn’t feel like I’ve been blogging for long until I look at dates. By “blogging” I mean publishing consistently. I’ve always had a desire to write. I remember messing around on WordPerfect after accessing it from MS-DOS. I remember scribbling in notebooks I bought to write on subjects that consumed my early teen mind.

I just had no idea how to “publish”. You know, get it to people, challenge their thinking, spark conversations and do something that matters. Simple things, like changing the world. You know…

Back to blogging… I had attempts at blogging and dabbled in 2009. When I’ve decided on something it’s settled. 2010 saw me taking my game to the next level. I now write everyday. (My set minimum is 300 hundred words)

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It’s been a great journey. I’d like to think I’ve become better writer with all this practice. Through blogging something I knew already, became more apparent; sometimes I don’t know what I think about something until I write about it.

I have attempted to share why I blog in this post: Unmasked. The other reasons come to light through blogging itself.

In 2010 I bought the domain, “”. I was initially unhappy that I couldn’t think of something crafty. No cool blog names. Then I thought, “What could be cooler than my name?”

I’m grateful for the influence and doors that have opened as a result of the blog. Don’t get it twisted; the blog is just a medium I publish through. I’ll be upfront, at the risk of being perceived as arrogant:

I’ve worked my butt off crafting posts, trying to clarify my thoughts and publishing. It is not the blog it is the work behind it and actually publishing. Blogging is a great way to connect with the world. A great connection point for many things, one of which is making a difference.

I haven’t arrived, that why I’m at it virtually everyday.

Back to the opportunities and influence I’ve been privileged to realize through blogging…

So, I bought “”, learned a lot of things by accident both in the technology and content creation. I learned to be disciplined.

I’m on the verge on something new on the blog. Time for the next level. I’ve always wanted “” but someone beat me to it. And whoever has it wants a fortune for it.

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I’d rather feed a starving kid than spend that kind of money on a domain name. I think in some instances great domain names have been overrated hence such crazy prices.

Where finances are constrained creativity must be unleashed [Click to Tweet]

Back to the domain…

So, today, in fact, last week I said goodbye to “”. It’s been a great run.


Say “Hi” to “” instead. It’s shorter and easier to share with people. I have no issues with my last name but it’s kind of a pain when I have to spell it every time I give out my domain name. It is fun and excruciating when hearing people trying to say my last name.

So, I’ve made it easier for everybody and moved “” to “”. I’ve had “” for a while, thanks to and it was just a matter of time to move things.

A shout out to Lee Watkins aka UniekLee  for helping with the move. A great guy if you need some WordPress guy to do stuff for you…

I like the extension “.im”. So now I get to say, “”. With the extension sounding like “I Am”. Get it, “Blessing dot I AM”.

There are some cool things coming up on to take your leadership and life to the next level. Stay tuned.

For now, that’s all folks…

What domain name do you wish you had? [Click to Tweet]

Stop Complaining About Ads & Privacy Changes On Social Networks

Google+ is now introducing ads. Also, unless you tell them not to they are going to use your face to endorse some stuff. That sound familiar?

And, in the other corner, all content on Facebook is now searchable. Oh, did I mention Instagram serving ads. Awesome. Yes, awesome, for them that is.

Once I was the guy who was outraged by this. I mean, “How could they use my content like that? It was my content, my family picnic photos, my wedding and my creative artwork. And, they’re just going to use it anyhow, not even without my permission.”

Like I said, I was once that guy, then I grew up.

Stop Complaining About Ads & Privacy Changes On Social Networks

Complaining about what social networks are doing with “your data” is naive [Click to Tweet]


User Agreements and Privacy Policies

Firstly, like 99.9% of most people on them you never did read the user agreement and privacy policy. You just lied; you claimed you had read and understood the terms. If you had read it carefully, you would’ve seen the clauses that said they could amend the policy and the user agreement.

You would’ve been aware that you were at the mercy of the network you would commit the memory of some of your precious moments in life. How do I know? I did that. I didn’t read the long, boring, legal jargon that the “agreements” are written in.

My take is that they, the user agreements that is, are written to protect the social media platforms more than the people who use them.

Stop complaining about the change of privacy and advertising on Facebook, Instagram, Google+ and the rest. They told you, in their complicated way and incomprehensible way that they would do what are doing.

It is their house you went to play in and you have to play by their rules. For me, it is that simple. But I didn’t just arrive at this. It was journey. They need to keep their lights on and want some sort of reward for allowing you to play in their house.

Is it that simple enough for you?


One of the ways I chose to grow up and stop complaining about all these changes is to put more “stock” on my blog. I now place more value on my blog in that I have chosen to concentrate on putting more of my personal stuff where I have complete control of my stuff.

I do still use Facebook, Google+ and others, because a lot of people are there, but I use it to point to my blog. My pageviews, including photo posts, are now too important for me just give away to Facebook, Google+ and the like.

Again, if you’re happy for someone else to call the shots on your stuff that is fine. But it is not for me. I use self-hosted WordPress for my blogs. I don’t like the free blogging platforms (e.g., Tumblr) because I don’t know what bee is going to be in the bonnet tomorrow. I also don’t have complete control about what ads show on “my blog”.

My writing, precious memories in photos and other works are that much more valuable to me that I want where I can protect them and do as I please with them, without being a share price pawn for Zuckerberg or Schmidt.

I am grateful for Facebook, Google+ and others in that they help us connect with friends and family. I’m also grateful that they’ve helped me in building my platform.


Like I’ve said, I now choose to focus my content more on my own platforms. Besides my blog I’m also placing great value on apps and platforms that share the philosophy of complete ownership and control of works.

Hence I use Pressgram. I’m also on the look out for apps and platforms that share a philosophy akin to Pressgram’s.

Side Note

Anyone serious about influencing in any significant way must know how to leverage the different platforms. However, this must be done in way that also enables their own platform, of which they have autonomy to do as the please with.

Your strategy to influence must never be at the mercy of social media platforms you have no control over [Click to Tweet]


Quit complaining about ads, privacy policy changes. You can’t go to someone’s house and make demands. Didn’t your momma teach you better?

Focus on building your own platforms such as self-hosted blogs where you can put your realty. Use the Facebook, Google+ and others like them to enable your own platform.

Your take?

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COMMENTS | Blog Post Integrity

Integrity, or the need for it, extends to many areas of life. Blogging is as much a normal part of life in our time. We encounter blogs often. (At least, I’m one of those people who blogs, follows and reads other blogs).

We’re alive in an amazing time. I guess that was the line in Gutenberg’s time when the press changed the world. Blogging has changed our world, by placing the power to publish in the hands of ordinary people.

Just about anyone with access to a computer and the Internet can influence people beyond the geographic divides at a speed never imagined in Gutenberg’s time.

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One of the most powerful features of blogs is the comment option. Bloggers can decide if they want people to engage with their posts by either allowing or denying commenting.

It is a great way to say to the world, “this is what I think, let’s talk about it.” One of the reasons I blog is to start conversations that enrich. Conversations that add value. Having a different perspective or opinion doesn’t bother me at all.

We miss out on great thinking and greater awareness when we want everyone to agree with us. If you’re blogger and allow commenting on your posts, be prepared for people to disagree with you. Allowing comments is asking for it.

At the same time, it is a great way to engage others and be a part of conversation. It is the part of the blog that allows you to talk to and not at people. Commenting is a significant part of enabling community.

Like I’ve already said, because it is your blog, you can decide whether what people can do in your house. Unlike what some social media platforms like Facebook, that calls the shots on your data.

This being said, I think every blogger needs to have some sort of commenting policy if they allow comments on their posts. I have one. I reserve the right to delete or edit comments that violate my commenting rules on my blog.

However, when I, or any blogger edit comments the integrity of comments must be maintained. By this I mean as bloggers, we must never edit any comment to mean what it does not mean. Edit things that violate your policy without violating the message of comments. If this is impossible then delete the comment completely.

I’ve been thinking about integrity in blogging and this aspect came because of an experience I had recently. I wrote a comment, which wasn’t published immediately because it had to be moderated first. Some bloggers want to approve comments before they can see them. Their blog, their rules.

So, my comment was held for moderation and then published with my name and face attached, distorting the message I had written. Crazy.

Dear blogger, don’t distort the message of the people who comment on your blog. Either use it to enrich conversation and critical thinking or delete it. Don’t make people say what they never said.

Blog with integrity. Peace. I’m out. <microphone drop>Doof</microphone drop>.

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Five Ways Bloggers Lose The Plot

Blogging is not going away any time soon. It enables everyone, anyone to get his or her thoughts out. Publishing is not exclusive anymore.

There aren’t any rules but principles can help each blogger find what works for him or her.

As with anything it is easy to lose the plot:

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Blogger lose the plot when they make blogging the goal and not the means. On this blog, I write mostly about life and leadership. Every now and then I write posts about something unusual. For example when I ran my first 10km (6.2 miles) race.

Another non-typical post I did was one on my grandmother’s last words to my siblings and I. There are few reasons I blog but won’t go into detail about it here. You can read a little more about why I blog here and here.

Anyone making blogging the aim is missing out on the opportunity to do stuff that matters. And, perhaps change the world.


I hate it when the so-called blogging experts tell you that it is your blog and you can do with it whatever you want. Whether it means publishing once a week or once a month, and in the same breath tells you, you must publish a post a day.

They proceed to tell you how many posts would be great for exposure on Google and on and on. Bleh.

Blogger, you lose the plot when all you do is produce quantity at the expense of quality.


You lose the plot when you don’t ship because of self-doubt. I’ve been shocked several times. The good shock, by posts I thought might not be good enough. “Life In A Moment” is an example.

It seems some of the posts I doubted myself the most are the ones that have received the most hits. One thing I’ve learnt is that if I’ve gone through it, or a lesson I’ve learned, it will be helpful to someone else.

Ship despite your doubt. By so doing you will help someone deal with their own doubts.


I had this problem when I got back to blogging a little more seriously. The wanting-everything-to-be-perfect problem, I mean. I would take days writing a blog post.

Don’t get me wrong; it is important that I deliver some sort of quality. However, the quest for the perfect blog post or perfect anything has killed a lot of great things before they’ve been able to put one foot out the door.

Dear blogger, make peace with the imperfect [Click to Tweet]

Some ideas that have changed the world were not perfect when they did [Click to Tweet]

Stop trying to be perfect at the expense of shipping [Click to Tweet]

I’ve learned to perfect some of my posts by not working on them but paying it forward. By this I mean, drawing lessons from the earlier post to write a better one next time.

I’ve helped a number of people start blogging recently and one of the problems I’ve noticed with the newbie bloggers wanting everything perfect right from the start. This stops a number from getting started.

Some things you can only better as you ship the imperfect constantly. Your commitment must be to creating better content with each post. However, don’t let you excuse for not shipping be perfection. Perfection is a unicorn that you must keep chasing.


Bloggers also lose the plot when they place a price on themselves. By this I mean bloggers who are willing to endorse anything as long as they get paid for it.

I will never recommend something I don’t believe in. Period. Stay true to yourself and your audience. Tell the truth.

How else do bloggers lose the plot? What would you add?

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One Of My Favorite Places In The World

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This is one of my favorite places in the world. There are a few simple reasons for this. It is my work space. This is my home office.

This is the most comfortable place for me to write. From here I reach deep within myself. I collect myself and every bit of who I am focuses as I write.

It is a place I get vulnerable. Here I have honest, sometimes scary and uncomfortable conversations with myself. In this place I am clothed as I reflect on lessons I’ve learned.

This is where my thoughts are filtered and sometimes unfiltered and shared with the world despite them being a work in progress.

Not only that I am unmasked to face my greatest fears. I reconnect with some of my biggest dreams. Here, I write my book and for Leadership Heretic, Heretics, Medium and something new is brewing.

I reflect here. I journal here. I seem to write best here.

One of the things connected to my writing is reading. Something about the books around me makes the space even more cosy. For me, it is one of the most inviting spaces I’ve ever encountered.

Here, I read books. Some of the books around me remind of lessons I’ve drawn from them. They call out to me to live the promises I made to myself as our eyes meet, which occasionally happens.

Some of the books are on my ‘to read’ list and seeing them reminds me that I still need to read them. Some of them are just there to feed visions of how I’d want my books to be bound and packed one day,

This is one of my favorite places because it challenges my commitments to myself. Commitments to write, to dare to ship my work, with a simple, yet lofty goal, to change the world.

From my desk I reach deep within myself and challenge the world beyond me through what I create. The world also comes to me here as I read.

These are just a few of the reasons this is one of my favorite spaces in the world. Yes, you read that right, in the world.

And you? What is one of your most favorite places on earth and why?