The Power Of “I Don’t Know”

28 thoughts on “The Power Of “I Don’t Know””

  1. Great stuff. However I would like to bring another dimension to this “I dont know” theory…the negative side of it. Some will say “I dont know”, just to put you off or rather to discourage you. “I dont know” is also abused when more information is sought… you then give away more information than you intended and sometimes you are led to believe otherwise. One can then say “i dont know” to derail your frame of thought. The mafia would say “I dont know” meaning they dont want you to acknowledge their awareness of an issue. ..or that they want you to go ahead and find out. So beware of the “I dont know” statement. Try to establish the context so that you stay on track. Leaders will always analyse a situation and then choose to either use it positively or simply abuse it..

    1. Hi Fidelis, Good point on understanding context. I think it is very important. The context of the post is that of a leader with his team, with no “malevolent” intent, especially in relation to the ‘use’ of the leader’s influence…

  2. Well put, this works better than the biblical Nicodimus approach (seeking advise under guise of night) applied by most because of PRIDE. Pride is the biggest hold in most leaders. Those under one’s leadership should also not make a leader believe he has supreme ideas that would create an overconfidence based on misinformation, a recipe for disaster.

  3. Great. Very readable, immersive, and educating too. Timeless! This excites me about things to come from this blog.

  4. I’ve just been asked to lead a group and since it’s my first time being in full control, I can say that this has cleared some thoughts in knowing, yes leaders who have more experience than I have also have the thought, and/or answer “I don’t know”, showing the group that leaders don’t always have an answer and having their full support and that they feel comfortable in approaching a leader..
    The “I don’t know” thought is something we’re too scared to say or admit, but this makes us stronger and people feel more at ease to speak out and admit they are not too sure of the answer or what to do in a situation.

    1. Thanks Anthi! Glad you got some encouragement! Being leader doesn’t necessarily mean you’re the smartest or have to be the smartest! ;-)

  5. Wow great stuff guy.I think every leader should read this,insightful indeed.We need to realise that as leaders that they are always blindspots,and often we have to rely on those ones around us to pick them up,so admitting that we don’t know everything is a good start.

    1. great observation! people tend to think leaders know or have to know everything and leaders also put unnecessary pressure and stress on themselves by thinking they need to have all the answers…

      1. Hi Ntokozo, i think you’ve just brought up something interesting – the importance of listening and or perhaps hearing the people around you highlight your blind-spots. i guess sometimes those we lead also do try to tell us that our knowledge / skill is wanting… ta!

  6. I think its very insightful. The sooner that leaders especially in church leadership realize that saying i don’t know is not a sign of weakness but strength, the church and the world would be a step ahead.

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