What Was [#DP365]

A section of what was our lounge for almost three years. At the wall is a desk in the corner that made part of my home office.

The wall on that side of the lounge was lined with bookshelves / books. It used to be warm, cosy; literally one of my favorite places in the world.

Where I wrote… Because life is not static… Now change. Good change…

Moving on…

More later…

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The Best Person To Ever Happen To Me

The best person to ever happen to me is my wife, Ingrid.

I’m better because of her. I’m grateful she said, “yes”. And just when I thought I could never love anyone more I fall even deeper in love with her.

I thank God for her.

Who’s the best person to ever happen to you? Or who are you grateful to have in your life right now?

Slowing Down and Appreciating The Spectacular

I saw this video from Dumt & Farligt, a Dansih TV show, where the footage was slowed down to 2,500 frames per second. Some of the subjects they chose were a little random but interesting to see at that speed. Check out the video and catch my thoughts after and please do share some of yours. Catch you after the video!

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Reflection(s): Slowing Down and Appreciating The Spectacular

Some of my thoughts while watching the video was, “these guys are insane.” I wouldn’t mind working with them. How did they choose their subjects? Crazy.” Then I think the most significant thought was,

“what spectacular thing would i like to slow down. to savor seeing it unfold in the most captivating way?”

We run through life to get to the next thing. Leadership rushes to the next big thing. To the next lab for the next level of innovation etc. We are constantly driven to the next thing. How often do we actually slow things down to appreciate their beauty as they unfold.

The video, for example, shows amazing patterns when the baseball bat meets the egg. We normally do not see the beauty in that when we look at it with our normal eyes. How often do we miss seeing the spectacular because we are not disciplined enough to slow down.

the spectacular is all around us. It is just that we don’t slow down, just enough to realize and appreciate it.

I’m not suggesting to abandon our resolve for the next innovation or moving on to, or deciding the next challenge. But that we do actually slow down, in a sense, enough to appreciate the spectacular.

It is not that there are no spectacular things happening in our lives, leadership and enterprises, it is just that we never slow down, just that much slower to actually appreciate them enough.

What would you love to have seen in the video? What is the spectacular that you feel people never slow down, just enough to see and appreciate?

 

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372 Days In Marriage – The Chores… Eish! – Part 3

(This is post is part of a series. I share our experiences from my perspective from just over a year of being married. I am no expert and only share some experiences and thoughts that can help start enriching conversations, at least)

Chores are not fun but must be done! Before Ingrid and I got married, our premarital counselor asked who was going to do what chores. We could not give a straight answer on most things. I do not have the patience to calculate every cent when it comes to bank charges but Ingrid does.

Part of our lounge is my office… It is difficult for me to concentrate in clutter, so my work ritual starts with a ‘de-cluttering’ exercise, which often includes use of a vacuum cleaner. I do not particularly enjoy the whole tidying up exercise but it helps me do better the things that I need to do and enjoy doing. Thoughts / lessons:

chores are not fun but have to be done!

For the never married (and hopeful):

 

  • For the never married (and hopeful), you are not likely to figure out all the chores until you actually get married and you start doing everyday life together. There are other dynamics that you may not be aware of until you actually have to do what you commit to before you are married. While it is advisable and helpful to discuss who is going to be responsible for what, keep in mind and be open to possibility of adjustments.

 

  • There are chores we both do not like but the times we have done them together made them more bearable. Doing chores you do not like with someone you love makes it easier to get the chores out of the way. Partnership is important in helping you get past chores you do not like.

 

  • In the book Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman highlights acts of service as one of the practical expressions of love. This can be a big deal especially if this is someone’s strongest love language. Doing chores you do not like can be a practical expression of your love. (For more you might want to read ‘How people stop caring about what matters’). This may be cliché for some, but for chores I hate doing but have to do, I write them off as an expression and labor of love.

 

Other thoughts:

  • Marriage teaches and reminds me of the importance of partnerships and teamwork… In smaller teams, it is easy to identify the slackers. Thus, accountability is important in team contexts, especially as teams grow larger.

 

  • Change does not magically happen; it must be caused. Nothing changes unless you actually do something about it. You can never wish chores away. Do not think too hard about what must be done and just do it!

 

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For the married: how do you handle your chores? For the never married and hopeful: I would love to hear your thoughts too!

 

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