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Fear Of Missing Out (aka F.O.M.O) And Transition

Transitions, whether caused or imposed, can have a certain, “Fear Of Missing Out” aka “F.O.M.O.” to them. One of the reasons people fear committing to new ventures is fear of missing out on something else.

As life and reality would have it, one can only be fully present in a few endeavours or contexts at any given time. Most people wander in a bid to get the best of all worlds.

They hold out on pursuing opportunities in case there’s a better one. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not suggesting taking whatever opportunities arise. It is important to plug into what is most relevant and pertinent with where you are.

Fear of missing out can easily cloud vision for possibility of the opportunities that exist. It is possible to miss out on potential and accessible impact in the present for one that might materialise sometime in the future.

The thing is, we are always going to miss out on other opportunities by virtue of commitments we make. You are never going to maximise on every opportunity that comes your way even if you tried.

The challenge, of course, is determining what is most pertinent to your contribution to the world. What ignites you while enabling you to make a difference?

 Some opportunities will come your way and others will have to be created by you.

Commit to something. There is potential in the opportunity you have in hand. You can either choose to focus on it and maximise on it. To reiterate, don’t take opportunities because they’re within reach. Take them because they are pertinent to your (potential) contribution to the world.

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Risk is a reality in every context and possibility. It is naive to think there is an opportunity that will come risk free. The fear of missing out on a risk-free opportunity is irrational. It is a myth. You will only know the reality and reward of risk once you take it.


Commit to something. Commit to extracting the best possible value and, in and through it, giving the best possible value. Remember to do it in the context of what is most pertinent to your contribution to the world.

Commitment is the foundation of making a difference in the long term. It is building something systematically and patiently. It is the cornerstone of passion and doing things that matter.

F.O.M.O. on opportunities that are still inaccessible has robbed many of great life opportunities. For them as individuals and the world at large from the possible contribution from them.

Commit to something. Commit to something that you’ll be passionate about. That taps into your God-given abilities and allows you to contribute beyond yourself.

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Ideas About Ideas [#DP365]

We often have ideas about ideas… Meetings about meetings. Brainstorming about brainstorming. Strategizing about strategizing.

This has to do with “servicing” those things that serve us and or our mission. We must remember to pay attention and enable the processes that enable us.

Innovation and productivity means making sure that those things that make them happen are well taken care of.

Effective leadership is about keeping a finger on the pulse of the processes, frameworks and systems that undergird the enterprise. Ideas about ideas…

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One Of The Best Ways To Brand Yourself On The Internet | Part 1

I’ve written about branding a little ;-) As people and organizations, we want to project ourselves in a way that we want to be identified and loved for whatever end we have in mind.

I’m not against brand promotion (whatever that is), however, I’m about being truthful in how we project who we are what we aspire to be.

There’s a craze to find the holy grail of branding. The silver bullet is nothing but a myth. There are no three keys or seven ways to… or whatever… When bloggers and authors try to make it sound like it is only their strategy or ways that makes things happen, they lie.

There’s always a factor that is either unaccounted or not fully accounted for. Something misinterpreted due to being misunderstood. I’m not saying they’re wrong with some of the things they put forward. I’m saying they don’t have perfect knowledge or wisdom, applicable as is across the board.

Understanding context is often the differentiator when it comes to applying anything else someone has done elsewhere. Sometimes even the geniuses get it wrong when the environment and other variables change.

Thus the thought I’m about to share on the best way to brand oneself is not comprehensive. It can be one of many keys in a larger strategy. Here it goes:

One of the best ways to brand yourself on the Internet is to BLOG. And here’s why I think so:


To employ analogies… A blog is like home. Other social media platforms are coffee shops where you occasionally hang out. You may frequent them with friends etc. If you think about it, those you have the best relationships with are those you sit around a table with in your home(s).

Those are people you invite into a space somewhat sacred to you. Blogs are home. The place you have conversation and interaction that transcends the limitations of coffee shops or café. There are no closing times and no one is in charge but you when it comes to your home.


Blogs are also a great way to share with those you or your brand reaches the evolution of your brand. People privy to the processes that define brands tend to have greater affinity brands.

I know some brands that delete their YouTube videos after each campaign, so that they only have their most recent videos. Big mistake.

This is because blogs give a history, a sense of legacy. Deleting old videos or posts is like erasing memories that have helped make the relationships with the lives your brand touches. Think carefully before hard resets of that nature.

Check out the follow up post here.

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Books I Read In 2013

Reading is one way of getting knowledge or wisdom without going through some of the things others have. I read as an important part of my personal growth. Whether blogs or books, I’m generally suspect of anyone, leaders in particular, that don’t read as part of their growth regimen. I thought I’d share some of the books I read in 2013.

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Cost and Value Mismatch

Cost and value. These two are related but often mistaken for each other. The cost of something has to do with what it takes to attain or posses it. Value has to do with its worth.

Cost doesn’t determine value per se. Both are very subjective. One of the main reasons is that value is generally something that is inferred.

Something can be more valuable to some because of the sentiments attached to an item. A particular pencil (I have no idea why I chose that… whatever…) may be worth a lot for John because from his great-grandfather, every child in their family has used it for the first week of school. Or his great-grandmother used it to write his great-grandfather love letters. Whatever… You get the idea.

Cost is what people pay to get “stuff” (whatever that is).

People tend to dismiss things as too expensive based on the price tag. When they do that, they got it twisted. Wrong. How you determine how expensive something is, is through assessing what you are getting for the price you’re paying.

That, is how you determine value of something. What are you getting out for what you’re putting in?

This is what informs whether anything is worth your while in time or spending.

“Cost” also evades many. For instance we tend to thing something cost us what we pay at the checkout counter. We often overlook other things attached to it.

For instance, we overlook the time it took to make the decisions to acquire. We don’t take into account that we used fuel to get to some place. We make the emotional energy involved in making a case for getting something instead of the other when speaking to our partners or friends.

Value is what you’re willing to pay. Cost is what you may be asked to get something in exchange.

The point of my rambling (not comprehensive):

Look for the hidden costs in what things really cost. Understand that value is subjective and never assume you place the same value on particular things.

Leaders who understand cost, holistically, make wiser decision for the long game. At the same time if they understand the value their (individual) team members place on things they are able to speak into that and lead better.

This is not only a leadership thing. It is a life and relationships thing as well. Think about it. Yeah, think about it…

Have you ever witnessed instances were you confused cost and value?

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